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 My daughter and I had been granted the house to live in at court, when he took me for being an unfit mother in December. We stayed there with all of the chaos for many months. My car alarm would randomly go off multiple times at all hours of the night. We would wake up to eggs being thrown at the house. I was told, "I will show you what a monster I can be." He would randomly drive by and just stare. Send pictures of us. Still... the cops were no help. Half of the time they didn't write the report or it was complete trash. I have videos of most accidents I reported on and they state that I say no harm was done. Absolutely not. Harm was most definitely done. 

I had started seeing a man in March and he was uncomfortable with us being there with everything going on. We were uncomfortable ourselves, but we were doing the best we could.

The beginning of summer our upstairs air unit went out and our thermostat read 100 degrees. So we spent a few nights at my boyfriends. Judge me all you want, but sleeping on a couch or in a room hot as hades was not on my list of to-dos. My ex had randomly texted me that day asking if I could get something from our garage for him. I used this opportunity as a you do for me and I'll do for you moment. I asked him if he could meet my father at the house and take a look at the air. It happened every year and it was something he normally could quickly fix. He agreed. Well, by this point you may know that what he said was most likely not what was going to happen. 

He reluctantly met my father at the house. Brought the wrong size air filters, took the old air filters out, and texted me saying it was fixed. He got what he wanted from the garage and left. 

My daughter and I go to the house to check and much to our surprise, it was still burning up upstairs. I called a company to have them come out and check it out and see how much it would be. I'm a school teacher so as you can imagine the money is tight. I didn't have the extra cash to get it fixed and my ex would not help. So the plan was to stay with my boyfriend until I saved up the money to fix it. 

My ex heard that we were staying with him and took it upon himself to break in our home with his now girlfriend, then mistress. Our son and his girlfriend. As well as my exes daughter and go through mine and Mileys personal belongings. Take what they wanted. And packed our things in garbage bags. My wedding ring that I wore for 19 years was taken. My camera I had gotten for Christmas that my daughter was using to start her own photography business was taken. An apple watch, lulu clothes, kitchenaid mixer, halloween decorations, the living room television, tv stand, my coach purses, coffee table, kitchen table, kitchen hutch, the big green egg, bedroom television and so much more. He then changed the locks on the house that was granted to me and my child. 

Imagine knowing that the woman your husband cheated on you with was going through your personal items and taking what she wanted. And then allowed to go through your daughter's things. I know Jesus was with me because I was ready to go to jail over that. 

We only found out when my daughter stopped by the next day to get some things and couldn't get in her own home. I called and was instructed that I could break a window to gain access. The house was completely ransacked and destroyed.

My daughter texted her father asking him if he did this and he replied "I had no choice." He told her that he would meet her with whatever she needed of hers but that the house was no longer ours. He was going to take me to court so that he could be granted the home and move his new family in. 

What man cheats on his wife of 19 years, blames his daughter for it all, bribes his son to go against his own mother, threatens them, stalks them, harasses them, and then steals their personal items for his girlfriend and her kids. What woman is okay with a man that will do that? I can tell you two people that think they have done nothing wrong and that it was all okay to do. And I am the evil one. 

I have to drive home and see my grill and decorations on this woman's house. We have to see posts of her and her children wearing our things. Not to mention they moved 0.2 miles from us. No exaggeration. When I say, i'm living in shock, that's exactly what I mean. Living. In. Shock.


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